In my last writing tips article, I talked about that long slow period you might encounter at a show. This week I wanted to offer some suggestions at how to stay positive if things have gotten you down. I know, that is kind of an odd article to come from me. After all, I coined the phrase:
The glass is not only half-empty, the water is dirty.
By nature, I’m usually more of a realist, not an optimist. However, I have learned how to find the positive in things if I take the time to do so.
With that in mind, here are a few tips that may help you remain positive, be it at an event or anytime you are writing or trying to do get something done.
1. Avoid the trap of worrying about something that has not happened yet
Unless it is inevitable—like being in an out of control car sliding toward the edge of the bridge—things may not turn out as badly as you fear. Which means you don’t want to waste your time now lamenting a tragedy before it has occurred. Do not become paralyzed with fear, instead, use the time to your advantage.
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Last week’s recommendation was for people who are doing shows and events to buy mats because hard surfaces make standing for long periods of time more difficult.
This week I want to elaborate more on the value of standing. As I mentioned last week, standing helps you to engage with your audience and puts you at eye level with those to whom you are speaking. That helps to build an immediate rapport with them, or at least does not try to place you on different social levels by remaining seated while they are forced to stand.
But there are other reasons for standing as well. There is a psychological impact for you in changing your position and posture and that in turn impacts how you are perceived. As a writer, I want to share the world I have created with anyone I can encourage to delve into it. No matter how good or bad my story, my interactions with them greatly impact the chances they will be willing to peak inside the cover.
Again, with the mat suggestion, this is not really limited to just writers, but to everyone. Changing your body language is incredibly powerful. It can make the difference between getting a job, a raise, a date, making a friend, … the list is endless. I highly recommend the TED talk I’ve linked below. It is Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are.